However, I also like to reinforce the other side of the wealth equation, income, because most budgets and money management programs focus too heavily on reducing the expenditure, which is often restrictive and sometimes depressing. Very few of us focus on increasing our income in hard times, which is exactly what we should do. Creating more income is also a more positive approach than merely cutting back our spending. Although, in the beginning it is important to identify our extravagances and eliminate expenditures that are wasteful, it is equally important to think of new ways to create more money. This is often easier to do than we realize.
Be novel and think laterally when devising new ways to increase your income. Everyone who I have assisted on the Money Program has eventually increased their income, despite protests to the contrary at first. Some, who were seriously in financial hardship at the time, got part-time work to help in the short-term. Others increased their hours or thought of new ways to increase their clientele. A few were able to turn a favorite hobby or interest into income-producing ventures. Some were more adventurous and left poor-paying employment for better opportunities. The more I asked them to think about it, the more receptive they became. However, the most important aspect is only do what feels right to you and that which you enjoy.
When you start to manage money, your sense of accomplishment and self worth increases. This sense of accomplishment has a snowball effect. The more accomplished you become at managing money, the more open you will become at earning and receiving money. This may take time, so in the beginning you may have to use short-term methods to boost your income, such as part-time work. Do not rush out and change jobs just to increase your income.
When my clients changed jobs for a higher paid one, it was usually a gradual, automatic process that happened naturally when their self-esteem grew and they were ready for it. So, if your first thought is to change jobs - wait. Is it the right time? Are there other short-term ways to increase your income first? Do you have a good employer who is doing the right thing by you? If you increase your output in this job, will it lead to a payrise? Think of all the alternatives first.
Many people naturally try to increase their income using short, quick-fixes. Gambling, lotteries and highly-speculative investing lure the impatient into believing that one big win will solve all of their financial problems. The odds are definitely against them, but even the "lucky" few rarely keep their windfalls for very long. Bankruptcies amongst former lottery winners are all too common. Quick-fixes are just that - a quick fix, not a long-term solution. If you haven't learned to manage your money before the windfall, what makes you think that you will after the windfall? The usual scenario is to keep repeating the same behaviors that prevented you from successfully managing money in the first place. If your tendency was to overspend before the windfall, then you will most likely keep overspending - but with more to lose.
People who gamble have usually given up on their own ability to make money. It is usually those people who feel that they are stuck in a dead-end job or have lost their faith in their own abilities to produce a good income, who flutter away their hard earned money on lotteries and poker machines. Pensioners, in particular, once their working years are over, are enticed by the hope of that extra windfall because it represents the only extra money they believe they can create. When we lose faith in own ability to earn more income, or produce the income we desire, the more we can fall prey to the addictions of gambling.
Winning large windfalls is often a double edged sword. There is a tendency to either misuse the large sums of money or lose it. Not only have we not learned to manage this sudden wealth, but we have often not earned it. Within all of us, there is sub-conscious voice that ensures that our internal debits and credits are balanced. If we produce goods and services that are valuable to others, this internal part of us knows that we deserve payment and will more readily accept greater rewards into our life.
I often hear people saying, "I don't feel like I deserve to be wealthy". Maybe, they don't. Maybe, they haven't tapped into their wide reservoirs of talents and skills yet and not used them for adding value to their community or employers. Observe very wealthy celebrity or sport stars. They have far reaching audiences who they inspire or entertain. The celebrities may earn millions a year, but they also reach millions of people. The more people these stars can assist in some way, the more money they receive in return. We need to feel that we have earned our income, before we can appropriately accept it into our lives. There has to be some sort of exchange. People who suddenly win large windfalls often lack this sense of exchange, and sooner or later, lose or give away their money in compensation.
The most consistent path to increasing your income is by the exponential method: a slow, gradual start that increases dramatically over time. This gives us time to learn how to manage the increase. The more adept we become at managing money, the more we will be open to receive.
Each of us has a subconscious ceiling on the amount of money we can receive at any given time. This ceiling has been created by many different factors - parental and social conditioning, past experiences, our own sense of self-worth and the value we have placed on the talents and skills we use in our particular line of work. If we receive more than what we think we are worth, we tend to lose it or give it away. Hence, the reason why so many lottery winners become bankrupt so quickly. In order to increase our income, we must raise the ceiling on our income earning potential.
Past influential people can also affect our sense of self-worth. For example, an overly critical parent or employer can impose their own limiting beliefs and values onto us by constantly demeaning our efforts. In Napoleon Hill's classic, Think and Grow Rich, he lists the thirty-one major causes of failure. Included in this list, are "unfavorable environmental influences during childhood", "negative personalities", "wrong selection of a mate in marriage" and "wrong selection of associates in business". In all of these factors, he cautions against negative personalities and surrounding yourself with people who destroy your goals and inspirations. As he says, "We emulate those with whom we associate with closely. Pick an employer who is worth emulating".
Regardless of how detrimental our past conditioning and exposure to negative and limiting beliefs, we can change our own internal programming. To raise our income ceiling, there are several things we can do:
1. Add value to your work. If we are sloppy and lazy in our work, we decrease our own internal self-image. Wasting time and getting paid for too many, unnecessary "sickies" may be a short-term method of getting us through a boring job, but it also lowers our own internal self-worth. The more we add value to what we do and know that it is serving our employers, clients and the community, the more we raise our own level of self-esteem.
2. Fully utilize our own special skills and abilities. We all have special talents and traits that are valuable to others. If you are not using these talents in your current job - you are in the wrong line of work. Do those activities that utilize your special talents everyday, even as a hobby. Then you can gradually build them into a job, business or career. Invest in some extra training, if necessary, to improve your skills to qualify for greater income-producing opportunities.
3. Add purpose to our work. One of my favorite sayings is, "To be successful, add purpose to what you do. The higher the purpose, the greater the success you will achieve". Even a menial job will gain more sparkle, when you find a higher purpose to the work. Whether we realize it or not, people are basically driven by purpose. Without purpose we shrivel up and contract our lives, our feelings and our aspirations. With purpose, everything becomes meaningful and more exciting.
4. Spend less time with people who intimidate you or constantly demean your abilities. If you cannot avoid them, ensure that you don't accept their beliefs and criticisms as the truth. Remind yourself that negative people are often only projecting their own fears and thoughts about themselves onto others. It is not your belief - it is theirs.
5. Change your own internal income ceiling. The best and surest way to do this is to reprogram it. That is why affirmations and visualization exercises are so effective. We have a subconscious picture or belief about what we can or cannot have, and sometimes we just get used to having only what we have had in the past. We need to stretch our beliefs. Write out new goals and tape them to your bathroom mirror or refrigerator where you can see them everyday. Read inspirational books on goal setting and achievement. Practice creative visualization.
I believe that in all of us, regardless of age or physical health, we have special talents and skills that are valuable to others. At age 81, film star Kirk Douglas suffered a debilitating stroke that rendered him powerless and speechless. After many months of intensive therapy, Mr Douglas regained his speech and later wrote a book called, My Stroke of Luck, describing the positive opportunities he gained from his illness. No physical situation is detrimental to us, if we use it as an opportunity for growth, learning and expansion.
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